The one thing which is the hardest in love is to differentiate between what is right and what is wrong. We are often so engrossed in the beautiful essence of love that we often forget what signs are staring at us right in the face.
You are in a good loving and caring relationship, that’s wonderful, but that doesn’t mean things cannot go south. You should always always be wary of a few signatures that might tell you that something is not well with your relationship.
You always have to know what is good and what is not when it comes to relationships. Although we always want our readers to have healthy and fulfilling relationships, we also do not want them to endure abuse. Often there is a thin line between right and wrong, and what is acceptable and what is not acceptable in a relationship.
While every relationship has to endure through some problems, some of them are workable and some take resolve to get through. While each relationship is unique, the symptoms when they start failing might be common across many relationships. With this fact in mind, we bring you Ten Important Signs That Your Relationship Might Be Losing Spark.
1. You Have Started To Fight More Than Usual
Once things go sour in any relationship, the first thing to happen is an increase in the frequency of fighting between the two involved. Fighting can be over some legitimate issues, or some very trivial issues, depending upon the level of mistrust and frustration with each other. In any case, fighting indicates loss of trust and confidence between two people and hence you two should sit down and try to find out what exactly is going wrong.
2. You Both Are Looking For Ways To Avoid Sex
One of the first things to take casualty of souring relationships is Sex. You don’t feel in the mood all the time, and you both are looking for excuses to postpone sex. You don’t feel the raw lust with which your bedroom once brimmed. You don’t want to hump madly at each other.When people are angry with each other, they tend to avoid sexual contact. They exhibit the same behaviour if they are upset with each other over something too. If such is the case, you need to work on it more. Less sex is only going to increase your frustration and create more problems for you.
3. You Are Fighting In Public More Often
Whilst fighting at home can somewhat be taken as something which happens in every relationship, fighting at a public place marks a problem with greater seriousness. If you both are yelling at a public place and showing fingers to each other, you have hit a new low. You need to act quick to reassure each other of your commitment and work towards making each other feel trusted and comforted.
4. You Are Lying To Each Other
Lying begins when you two stop trusting each other with each other’s reasons and needs. There is no need to lie as long as there is trust between two partners. If you are lying, that means you two do not trust each other with each other’s requirements. You need to give each other the required space so that there is no need for any one of you to lie.
5. Holding Contempt Towards Each Other
If you hold contempt or grudges towards one another, chances are you have already had some issues before. A healthy relation does not involve holding contempt or grudges against each other. Communication is again the key here. You need to be open towards your partner and let him know what you think is wrong and why he should amend his behaviour. A loyal and loving partner would work on a relationship instead of walking over to an escort after a fight.
6. The Feeling Of Resentment Towards One’s Partner
If either of you resents the fact that you two are in a relationship, that is not a good sign. You need to work with each other to make each other feel comforted and secure, and always communicate even the smallest things that you think your partner should know.
7. He Is Staying Out A Lot
If he has been hanging out a lot with his friends, or is often staying out late, chances are he is trying to avoid you or looking for a new interest. Any man in a loving relationship would come to his partner the first thing after work.
8. You Know He Is Talking To Other Women
This one is as explicit we can get. For any man in a relationship, his partner should be his first confidant. You can not hope that he would trust any other woman with his secrets, and daily gossips about his work, friends and sports. That has to be your right.
9. You Both Are Having Trust Issues
If either of you are constantly looking for each other’s whereabouts or ringing up their friends, you could be having trust issues with each other. It can be that you don’t like a friend of him who is all the time flirting with him. It can also be that he can be a bit close minded and is often disapproving with who you go out with. Such behaviour is never beneficial for any relationship, and if you are having such issues, there is something fundamentally wrong with your relationship. You need to trust each other, and if you are not, you should talk with each other to bring it back.
10. Physical Violence
This one is perhaps the most serious of them all. If he starts hitting you or has hit you in private space or even worse, in public, then you need some serious thinking to do. Physical violence is something which a person should never tolerate, no matter what is the reason. You should make it clear that this is something which is going to have serious repercussions. Also let some of your close friends know about it so that they can bear witness to it if it becomes repetitive. You should always remember that hitting someone is the end of what anyone should legitimately bear for the sake of a relationship. If it gets any worse, seriously think about getting out of the relationship.
We have mentioned all the important signs that can help you with diagnosing problems in your relationship. You need to take note of any of the above things that might have been happening and you need to act quickly in order to avoid any further damage to your relation. We hope you recover from any problems that you might be having and enjoy your life to the full.